John McCain’s VP?

August 29, 2008

Did John McCain just pick Tina Fey for his VP?

Sarah Palin

Tina Fey 

Cool. I love 30 Rock! Can we make Alec Baldwin Secretary of State?

 

 


Gifted Children are a Dime a Dozen

August 27, 2008

Saw this headline at CNN.com and had to comment: Is your kid really gifted? Probably not.

Did your child walk and talk early? Does she have a brain like a sponge? Scribble magnificently? Love learning? Ask questions that leave you marveling (and scrambling to Google an answer)?

Wow, clearly she’s a genius!

Or, um, maybe not.

“Gifted” has become one of the most tossed-about words in the parenting lexicon. Unfortunately — sorry, but let’s get this out of the way right up front — it’s also one of the most misused.

The vast majority of children are not gifted. Only 2 to 5 percent of kids fit the bill, by various estimates. Of those, only one in 100 is considered highly gifted. Prodigies (those wunderkinds who read at 2 and go to college at 10) are rarer still — like one to two in a million. And despite the boom in infant-stimulation techniques, educational DVDs, learning toys, and enrichment classes, those numbers haven’t been increasing. You can’t build giftedness; it’s mostly built in.

Still, it’s hard to resist scrutinizing your child for signs of greatness. (Those “signs” in the first paragraph, by the way? Not one guarantees an intellectual giant.) The growing fascination with giftedness is part natural impulse to see our offspring as special, part wanting to be sure a child’s needs are met, and maybe a bit of hoping for a competitive edge in the increasingly cutthroat school-admission process — or bragging rights. Parenting.com: Homeschooling a gifted child

“There are no average kids anymore,” notes Devra Renner, a clinical social worker and coauthor of “Mommy Guilt”. “The word ‘good’ is like the new ‘bad.’ Why settle for even ’smart’ when you could instead call your child ‘gifted’?”

True giftedness may be as rare as Einsteins and Mozarts, but the good news is that there are loads you can do to help your child reach her full potential. Even better: Whether young children are truly advanced or happily average (where they have lots of company), in the early years they need pretty much the same things. To raise a happy, emotionally healthy kid, follow these five steps to success:

1. Forget about the “g” word

There’s plenty of wishful thinking about giftedness because there’s no standard definition of it. Broadly speaking, a gifted child has special abilities in a particular area. The five main ones outlined in a popular 1993 U.S. Department of Education report are intellectual, academic, creative, artistic, and leadership — none of which is normally associated with the performance of babies and toddlers.

“‘Gifted’ is often misunderstood,” says Julia Roberts, director of the Center for Gifted Studies at Western Kentucky University. “People don’t always recognize a gift because they’re expecting a prodigy.” And parents whose kids are “highly capable” or “advanced” in one area or another may not feel satisfied until somebody official labels it “gifted.”

Many parents of kids under 5 look to IQ tests for a number that will “prove” their child’s ability. In truth, IQ testing doesn’t tell you much before the school years, and even then is generally considered unreliable. Why? Because “giftedness” is typically concentrated in one area and doesn’t refer to overall intelligence — the focus of an IQ test. (If you’re going to use it for academic placement — as many schools do, among numerous other factors — testing between ages 4 and 9 is optimal.)

You can read the other 4 tips on CNN’s website.

I apparently have met the all of the 2 to 5 percent mentioned in the article because every person I meet with kids says how “gifted” they are. If they’re so gifted, why are they eating crayons and playing in the cat box? Thankfully it’s not the other way around!

From my experience, kids that are constantly told they are extremely special or gifted often become self-involved narcissistic prima donnas. They’re told how special they are, but they also need to be told that other kids are just as good as they are. Can’t we nurture our kids and maximize their potential while we teach them humility at the same time? Can’t they just be “smart” instead of “the smartest”? Raising children has turned into a competition. And by doing so, the best interests of the child are not taken into account. It turns out it’s a way for the parents to prove they’re doing a good job.

And if that’s the goal, everyone loses.


Responding to Search Terms: Damn Dams

August 22, 2008

Wow. Back to back record highs for hits yesterday and Wednesday. Some good comments and lots of activity for the blog. Not bad for the dog days of August.

Time to look at some of the things that brought people here via everyone’s friend: The Search Engine!

running for idiots - I agree. Running is for idiots. Unless big ,mean people with weapons are chasing me. That’s pretty much the only time I do run. I’m the anti-greyhound. I don’t chase rabbits, they chase me. And it has to be more than one person…unless that person is really dangerous. But then I looked at this search term again and wondered “Are they asking how idiots run?” My colleague Shari would love this type of statement. I would think, and this is only from the brief research I did (I watched Forrest Gump) that idiots run very well.

Usually very straight and for long periods of time. Until someone says stop.

pacemakers positive – I never assume people know the obvious so I’ll say “They keep you alive.”

can you become a super hero vigilante – I’m flattered that you would ask me to do so, but no, I cannot become a super hero vigilante. Look at the “running for idiots” segment and you can probably guess from that, if you have keen deductive skills, I am not in any kind of shape. Amorphous lump is NOT a shape. I get winded sleeping. I don’t have the bankroll necessary either. I make a good living, but I can’t go around wasting money on a Kevlar suit and weapons…I’ve got a business to run! I also have too much of an ego to have a secret identity. I would be too busy doing the talk show circuit to save people. So unless criminals attack the Today Show, I wouldn’t be too much help. I also have a pretty busy travel schedule. I have enough trouble with my travel suitcase that holds a few dress shirts and a suit, how would I tote my superhero costume around? Try walking through airport security with a cape and gauntlets. You thought taking off your shoes was an issue. Plus, witty cutting sarcasm isn’t a superpower… though I feel it should be classified as such.

going down the road of negativity – I don’t see negativity as a road you travel down. Roads are placed by people. We can put roads anywhere we want leading to anywhere we like. Negativity is more like a river. It can be raging rapids of overwhelming power or just a small stream, but it’s always there, naturally. And like rivers, we can harness that power; use its natural force for our own productivity.

Our dam, to finish this absurd analogy, is our decisions on how we are going to use the river. Some dams just stop up the river completely by trying to shut it out, but at some point the rising water behind the dam will go beyond our control. Others, like myself, we can open our floodgates, control the flow and use it to generate electricity.

Did that make sense? I’m tired, it’s Friday and tomorrow’s my birthday, so I don’t need to think too much.


Avoiding online-security mistakes

August 20, 2008

Here is a great article that uses nothing but negative thinking to make their point. It’s about the mistakes people make regarding online security all the time. From CNN.com:

By now most personal-computer users know not to post their Social Security numbers on the Internet or respond to Nigerian e-mails seeking help with suspicious bank-account transfers.

But many people still make mistakes that compromise their computer’s security or invite identity thieves.

“You can’t be too safe,” said Jeff Fox, technology editor at Consumer Reports. People are more savvy today about online security, says Fox, “but a lot more education is needed. You need to be street-smart, the way you are in the real world.”

In an interview with CNN, Fox listed seven common online blunders that make people vulnerable to viruses and theft, and offered tips on how to avoid them: Watch Jeff Fox interview »

1. Assuming your security software is protecting you

People often believe that installing anti-virus software once will keep their computers safe forever. But new viruses come out all the time, so software must be activated properly and updated regularly to be effective against new threats.

Fox suggests you make sure your security software is active when you’re online. He also recommends enabling your computer’s automatic updating feature, which will keep it loaded with new security software.

“You need to do something on a regular basis if you want to be protected,” he said. “You’d be surprised how many people don’t realize that.”

2. Accessing an account through an e-mail link

In short, don’t do it. If you get an email from your bank asking you to update financial or personal information, there’s a good chance it’s actually from a “cybercrook” seeking to empty your account. Such “phishing” scams allow criminals to steal your logins, account numbers and other sensitive data.

These e-mails are especially insidious because they come adorned with genuine corporate logos and look legitimate.

“This stuff has gotten so sophisticated that it’s pretty much impossible for people to know … if the e-mail is real or not,” Fox said.

Because of this, most banks have stopped sending out e-mails asking for updated customer information, said Fox, who thinks the ones that still do should stop. People who must access an online account should do so by typing the institution’s address in their browser, he said.

3. Using a single password for all online accounts

Nobody wants to try to remember a dozen different passwords. But using just one, especially if it’s simple, can tempt fate. Some cybercriminals use code-cracking software, which uncovers passwords by trolling through millions of common number-letter combinations.

“If somebody manages to get hold of your password … they basically have entree to all your accounts,” Fox said. “You’re making it easier for them to impersonate you.”

Fox suggests using variations on the same password to make them easier to recall. He also recommends a complex password with at least eight characters, including numerals or punctuation symbols, to thwart thieves’ computers.

4. Downloading free software

“We’re not saying, ‘Don’t do it.’ We’re saying, ‘Just do it from places you know are safe,’ ” Fox said.

Some “free” software comes loaded with spyware, which clogs your computer with ads or employs a keystroke-capture program to steal your personal information. Fox recommends downloading only from such reputable sites as Download.com or SnapFiles.com, or, if you have a PC, scanning it with Windows Defender software.

5. Thinking your Mac shields you from all risks

Yes, Macs are much less susceptible to viruses and spyware than PCs. But surveys show that may breed a false sense of security among Mac owners, who still fall prey to phishing scams at about the same rate as Windows users.

Until Apple beefs up Safari, Fox recommends using another browser with phishing protection, such as the latest version of Firefox.

6. Clicking on a pop-up ad that says your PC is not secure

It’s easy to click inside the ad by mistake and be redirected to a spyware site or have malicious software downloaded to your computer. In a recent Consumer Reports survey, 13 percent of respondents said they did just that.

Instead, Fox recommends clicking on the tiny “close” button in the ad’s upper left or right corner. Or better yet, enable your browser’s pop-up blocker or use a free one from Google Toolbar.

7. Shopping online the same way you do in stores

On the Internet, you can’t always be sure who you’re doing business with. When entering your address and credit card information, make sure the site’s URL says “https,” which offers greater security than “http.” Don’t shop online with debit cards, which, if stolen, offer no liability protection, Fox said.

Fox suggests using one credit card for most of your business transactions and a separate card for your online purchases. That way if a hacker steals your credit card number and you must replace the card, it won’t disrupt your gym memberships or other accounts.

Finally, some banks (Citibank is one) will even issue you a temporary, one-time credit card number for specific transactions, Fox said. If stolen, it’s completely worthless.

When it comes to shopping, banking, heck, even chatting online…a healthy dose of skepticism is neccesary. Too many people are out looking for a trusting individual to take advantage of. Don’t let that person be you.


Generation Jedi: Yoda the Baby-boomer

August 18, 2008

One of the analogies I use when discussing Baby-boomers to younger generations is that Baby-boomers (the over 45 crowd to be simpler) is just like Yoda from Star Wars. Remember when we were first introduced to Yoda in The Empire Strike Back? He was this crazy, goofy Muppet with big ears who Luke didn’t think very much of or take very seriously.

And who doesn’t have one of those in our companies? Usually it’s an engineer or an accountant. But I digress.

Yoda seemed odd and not very useful at first glance. But it turned out Yoda knew quite a bit. In fact, he was one of the most powerful Jedi ever. But unlike younger generations, Yoda (and boomers) don’t feel they need to prove themselves. They’ve put in the time, they’re still around, and they know what they are doing. They don’t need to waste time, energy and resources on every single thing. They, like Yoda, know when the chips are down, they can kick serious butt too.

So I tell any young employee who will listen. Let the baby-boomers be your Yoda. Let them show you the ropes; use their vast experience to your advantage. They can show you how to avoid red-tape, who to go to with new ideas and what’s the most appropriate way to present your ideas.

They may seem out-dated, deranged, often-amusing, older co-workers, but if you underestimate their value, you’re doing them and more to the point, doing yourself, a disservice of galactic proportions.